I’m jazzed you’re here! My name is Christiana, and I’m a 6’5” Recovering Perfectionist, Coffee Purist, and Women’s Success Coach. I eat, sleep, and breathe everything personal development! (and coffee…I love coffee)
Growing up, I tried to be as close to “perfect” as I could, never questioning the rules and always following them. I graduated college on a volleyball scholarship, worked for awesome companies like ESPN/Nike/Walt Disney World, and even found the man of my dreams…. Outside of my relationship, I was totally miserable.
I’d spent my whole life trying to become the person I thought I should be while completely losing site of myself in the process. Through a series of life events –good and bad –my eyes were opened, my heart was set free, and I made the unshakeable commitment to helping women find themselves like I did. With that said, I want to start by saying thank you for showing up for yourself.
Self-love work can be a scary thing sometimes. We’re essentially cracking open the deepest, most hidden parts of ourselves and shining a light into the darkness. It is my hope through my writing that this process becomes less scary, feels more manageable, and blossoms into a practice you carry on all your life.
The heart of my work is on the belief that self-love is the ultimate healer, the transformation catalyst you’ve been searching for to positively change your life. Our society is largely centered on achievement and prosperity in our external environment. We’re judged, critiqued, and measured based on how much we weigh, how financially successful we are, and how “perfect” our lives appear to be. We tie self-love to the coaster ride of ups and downs of everyday living, often rendering us powerless over how we view ourselves.There’s hope! Let me first start off by giving you the greatest piece of advice I was ever given:
“The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.”
Life is a crazy, ever-changing river of events and people that come and go. You are the only constant in your life. Your ability to live, grow, and share your life with others is dramatically impacted by your ability to truly love yourself.
Personally, I’ve had to do a lot of work in the self-love department. I had many years where I didn’t love my body or myself personally. I didn’t love my curves and was frustrated because nothing I ever did seemed to be good enough. I always put myself at the bottom of my own priority list. If you’ve been there or are there now, I want you to know that you are enough without changing a single darn thing. Your ability to love yourself needs to be unconditional and untied from any external achievement.
Self-love is more than just how you feel about yourself. Self-love is an action. It’s something you show yourself every single day.
For some, that might be a radical shift in thought. Love is typically viewed as a possession, but I encourage you to start practicing self-love. The best news is that you can start this practice right now –not tomorrow, not when you achieve “xyz” –right now.
- Ask yourself what you really need and be willing to follow through with it. I want you to get honest here and love yourself enough to take action on your heart is asking of you.
- Make a list of things you love about yourself and say them out loud. I’m serious when I say write them down and actually speak the words you’ve written –it’s powerful.
- Become your own best friend. You wouldn’t tell your best friend she’s ugly or fat, but often that’s the way we speak to ourselves. Show self-love by giving yourself the time of day, engaging in positive self-talk, and following through with your personal commitments.
You’re worth it, Girlfriend ☺