A family that slays together, stays together. And by slay I mean that as an all-encompassing idea: holding their heads high in any environment, speaking confidently about one another, and promoting a warm sense of self-worth starting from the inside out. In my recent posts, I’ve spoken very candidly about how important my parents’ influence was over my positive perception about my height. When I look at pictures of my family, they are all standing tall with huge smiles on their faces, obviously comfortable in their own skin. Having those images as a young child, for me, made all the difference in the world. As children, we are so vulnerable to our parents’ legacy. We tend to take on their mannerisms, personality traits, body language, vernacular, and even physical stature. If your parent or guardian walks tall and speaks to people with assurance, you will too. I.
My parents’ confidence, especially my mother’s, was always something I wanted for myself and for my own future children. She always spoke highly about being tall, never once denouncing it as something we needed to tolerate, but only something we needed to have an abundant amount of gratitude for. Her brother, who was an athlete and stands at a beautiful 6’8”, also has been a key figure in my journey to self-realization. As a man, he already has enjoyed a certain level of success given our patriarchal society, but because of him I was able to hone in on my own stature, my own voice, and my own gifts.
I always speak about my foundation and how important that was and still is to my own success. Our foundation as we know it is many times the catalyst to how we shape our lives. With it, we become stronger, more resilient, and more aware and clearer of ourselves and of how we walk through the world. Although I am still living out my wonderful young twenties, I oftentimes think about the example I want to set for my own offspring and how important it is for them to see me in a certain light in order to see themselves. Now I, like many people, define “family” different from your average textbook. My entire “family” isn’t only composed of close relatives, but of great friends and mentors as well. A huge part of who I am today has been shaped by those around me—those who have supported me throughout my transition into womanhood and those who remind me who I am every single day.
A family that slays together, stays together. And it is important that as we begin the new year we surround ourselves with people who nurture who we are and remind us to always stand tall, walk in grace, and take advantage of our blessings.
Photo Credit: Kyle Blair Photography